Success Redefined

It's not about the bag!

Hi there!

Pictures can be deceiving. Accessories can make you look like you have it all together. But I know that is never the measure of success.

Surviving a 28-year toxic marriage = Success

I did not just survive it. I brought myself out and into purpose.

That marriage was not meant to build me. It was meant to minimize my power. Keep me distracted through suffering. And for a long time, it worked. I gave it years, tears, and pieces of myself I am still reclaiming. But I never stopped. And I never quit.

That is not nothing. That is everything. Because, when you are in the trenches, survival is the success.

Maybe you are in the trenches right now. Keep going. Do not stop.

I have never failed at anything in my life.

There have been trials. Pain. Confusion. Seasons where I lost hope and thought God had turned a deaf ear to me. I have people-pleased my way into exhaustion. I have abandoned myself trying to hold everyone else together. I have wallowed in self-pity thinking it was justified. And still, I kept going. Still, I learned. Still, I grew.

What could have killed me made me more resilient. I do not say that lightly. I say it because I lived it. There were moments where leaving this life behind was more attractive than divorce. In my mind, divorce equaled failure and that belief made me stay far too long.

Failure would have been to continue denying myself a life of freedom, love and peace; never fulfilling my purpose. That’s failure.

I want you to sit with that for a second, because owning that truth can change everything.

Yes, my marriage ended. I never earned a million dollars. I have not collected trophies nor climbed to the top of the corporate ladder. My gifts have not been cheered by thousands.

But, I raised amazing children. I cared for my mother through her last breath. I built homes and profitable businesses. I have been light in rooms that needed it. Spoken wisdom into the lives of many women.

I have loved people well, even when I was broken. Even when I was running on empty. Even when I did not know who I was anymore.

Survival had my attention for a long time. But through the fire, I remembered who I am. I see the truth that has been there all along.

There is a truth that you have forgotten. You are accepting the unacceptable because you do not know who you really are. The unfulfilling career. The people in your life that drain you. Signs that you have self-abandoned. Now it is time to return to True You. The version of you that existed before the world told you who to be.

If there was no opposition, what would you be doing with your time? What dreams would you be focusing on? Who would you keep close and who would you release?

There are many definitions of success. What is yours? Not the one inherited from your parents. Not the version you have been performing for years hoping something would fill the void you feel inside.

What is the success formula that would bring you joy as you made it reality?

I do not know your answer. But I know you do. And I know that somewhere underneath all the pushing through, True You is still there. Waiting. Not lost. Just covered. That is where we begin the work.

Does what you have read spark something within you? I would love to talk.

I invite you to a Private Chat You know something needs to change. You’re not sure where to start. This is a one-on-one conversation where you get to talk honestly and be heard. A real conversation to help you get clear on what you need and be advised on the best steps forward. Ready to be free, then the Private Chat is where we start. I’m Ready to Chat