Your Choice: Yes or No?
Learn to Decide from True You
Do you ever struggle to make a decision?
Caught between two minds, two beliefs, two options?
Recently I was invited to be a co-author in an anthology book project. It would be the second time my leadership and wisdom were published in a collective work designed to impact the lives of others.
Years ago, as a brand-new coach, I would have jumped at the offer. I would have felt honored just to be asked. I would have focused on how it could boost my credibility and status as a thought leader. Excitement and validation would have carried more weight than truth.
But this time, because I have come back to my power, to the truth of who I am as a leader, and to the calling on my life to guide women back to themselves; I paused.
I remembered that my time, my gift, my wisdom, and my partnerships deserve thoughtful consideration. Not rush. Not urgency. Not flattery.
The excitement of an offer, the promise of exposure, the hope of being appreciated are not the elements of a grounded decision.
So what did I do?
I headed to the West Coast for Christmas and declared that I would make the decision after the holidays. Of course, the old thoughts whispered, Hurry. She needs an answer. Don’t hold people up. But I stayed true to me.
The awareness of the impending decision remained present, floating to the surface periodically. But I have learned, through experience and some painful wrong turns, to take my time and to never respond until I know for sure.
What does it mean to know for sure?
It is when the inside of you says yes.
When peace settles in your body.
When clarity arrives without force.
It is not pushed.
It is received.
You just know.
And yes, this knowing comes with practice.
Why is knowing for sure so important?
Because the decision is your responsibility.
The outcome belongs to God, time, and the unfolding of life.
You only need to know whether to say yes or no.
The how, when, where, and why will reveal themselves later.
So I declared two intentions:
Step away from business until January 5.
Make the decision the week I returned.
I honored both.
And on Monday morning, January 5, the day I am writing this post, the answer landed.
I was sitting in my office on my LoveSac bean bag during my quiet time. Journaling. Reflecting. Writing ideas for my REALigned™ group. Wrapped in my blanket. Hot water with lemon beside me on the side table.
I asked myself and God, “Is this book project for me?”
Immediately the answer dropped into my knowing.
YES.
No hesitation. No doubt. Just pure truth.
I sent the message and accepted the offer immediately.
I do not yet know what I will write or how the project will unfold. I simply know that my answer is YES. I trust the leader I’ll be working with. And I believe the words I write will meet the women who need them.
I am called. I answered. The impact is beyond my control.
The Decision Framework
What I witnessed in myself through this process became a framework of how I make grounded decisions, and can guide you to do the same.
1. Declare
Make your intention(s) clear.
State what is true for you.
“I will wait until I hear a clear answer.”
2. Trust
Believe that clarity will come.
Pressure blocks wisdom. Trust invites it.
3. Release
Let go of what interferes with your knowing:
Fear
Pressure
Doubt
Guilt
Worry
This clears the noise before you move forward.
4. Live
Live your life.
Do not pause your world while you wait for an answer.
5. Anticipate
Hold the question lightly. Listen for the answer.
Stay aware, not anxious.
6. Receive
When the answer lands, accept it.
Without bargaining, overthinking, or diluting the truth you know.
This is how you return to True You in all of your decisions.
This is how you make decisions that honor your power.
This is how you say yes — or no — from a place of truth.
Every Leader Must Answer This
Do you trust your knowing?
Women who lead must recognize and trust their knowing.
What decision in your life or leadership is asking for a grounded yes or no?
Share it below. Your transparency may be the mirror another woman needs.